GIVING NOTHING

People are good at having relationships with others… Right?

They are born in families and taught from a young age to love and support each other in school, in their friends circles, in romantic relationships. They are taught to work hard on their relationships with others… to give others everything they’ve got. And then… they focus so much on others until they forget about themselves… they give so much to others until they don’t have anything left for themselves. They love others more and more until they come to the point of hating themselves.

Because no one can pour from an empty glass. No one can give love, respect and tolerance if they don’t have it. I think it’s wrong and confusing. I think we should all start by loving ourselves, understanding ourselves, respecting ourselves… I think parents should teach their children to first do that and only after that teach them what „others” means.

Otherwise I see this world full of empty souls… begging one from another… for a bit of attention, love, care and respect. This world is full of giving humans who don’t have anything to give. I see this world confused and always feeling guilty because of this big mistake that it’s planted in the core of the society.

We should have first… before giving. It’s so simple to realize that. Everything is already in us… like a treasure that first needs to be found… and only after that… shared with others.

If we truly love others we need to love ourselves first. If we want healthy and beautiful relationships with the ones that are around us… we need to first look within ourselves. If we want to give… we have to have. If you want to have what to give… search yourselves! Search… Find… Share and Give. That’s the natural order… that’s the natural way.

Don’t ask for love from others. If you have that need for affection… it means you’re not giving it to yourself first… And you feel empty… and weak… and you start begging for love… from people that don’t know you… that don’t understand you… not like you know and understand yourself anyway… So in that moment… stop. Take some time alone and search for that love within yourself. When you’ll be full of love… you’ll give it naturally to others… to everyone and everything that surrounds you. It will not even be a „give and take” process anymore… it will actually be like a state of being… You will not give love… You will be love… And this love will spread around you… everywhere… like a beautiful light.

If you are nothing… you can’t give anything. If you don’t have anything… you’ll give nothing to those around you. So become someone… so you can give something. Or better yet become everything so you can give them all… everything.